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L&D Labor and Delivery

            L&D
                 Labor and Delivery

I have always been naturally high, and now in my Doula work, it keeps me literally on an adrenaline rush, feeling the high of the moment, every day.  When I am on call for a Doula client, at any moment new life can begin to make its way into this world.  It is never an instant thing, but I usually tell my clients to let me know when contractions seem to be getting consistent, so I can prepare the next few days with substitutes for my classes, and make sure my husband is on kid duty.

It is not like the movies or shows you see on TV my friends, I like to say 99.9% of the time it is a process, like everything else in life.  There is no hurry, worry, or things that you cannot control, especially in early labor.  My role as a Doula is active labor, and of course every situation is different, but once early labor begins, I suggest a bath or shower, to drink some wine, sleep, or rest as much as possible.

For the past two months I have been 24 hours on call, and also completely booked with clients for my Yoga and Pilates classes.  At any moment, I would have to drop what I am doing, and figure out the plan.  Last week was insane, I was literally subbing for everybody in town, so there were really nobody to cover if I had to go.  I could have figured out another instructor, that maybe could have done a core and stretch class, but not Yoga or Pilates.  As I was going through my week, I was in awe how every day, hour by hour, class by class, I made it, taught it, and went on to the next.  Literally appreciating every moment that I was able to accomplish.  What if I cancelled all of my classes in advance, I would have been a sitting duck, so I feel excited, full of energy, of the possibility of life happening, and my flexible schedule always changing.  The moment I taught my last class last Friday morning, I got a call to go support my client, so I know that is my message for this week.

Luckily all of my classes and clients are very flexible with me, and I am very flexible with them.  Ultimately whatever will be will be, it makes no sense to worry in advance, to have things live rent free in your brain.  Still I have a lump in my throat, so much amazing stuff going on, not sure what I am going to be able to do and not to do.

On my way to a mani, pedi with my daughter!

Wedding prep!!

Nothing beats a natural high!!!

Coach Yulia

Proof that I am not meant to be a domestic engineer

                                                   Great, right before the wedding, Thank God for makeup!

Once we are parents, we really have no choice but to clean after our kids, clean our kids, non stop cleaning after eating and playing.  I am an organizer, I love to find a place for everything, I love to get into a closet and throw away what is not needed anymore, it feels so good to have a clean closet I can walk into.  Sunday my kids decided to play in the “everything closet” where we throw whatever we don’t know what to do with, it was piled up high.  It gave me the perfect opportunity to jump in and get to work.

I am still recovering from my full day of decluttering, I have a severe dust allergy, and my nose and eyes are still sniffling and watering.  It is really bad, all day I was sneezing probably one million times, one after the other, and not just a light little sneeze, but a whole body shaking sneeze that scared my kids.  Then to top it off, it would knock me off guard and some pee would escape.  I am so lucky that after three kids, I do not sneeze and pee on a regular basis, my kegels are strong, I am my own example of it is possible if you keep exercising and activating them, that is what I teach in Yoga and Pilates.

More proof that I am not meant to be a Domestic Engineer, a term for a housewife or stay at home mom. (or dad):

  • We have a stacked washer and dryer, my husband always starts the washer, puts the detergent, and I put everything in the dryer and sort afterwards.  The dryer sheets were on the very top, and for a moment, I felt like Wonder Woman, I decided to take a big jump, missed, and landed badly, pulled my back.
  • Yesterday I was warming up some good on the stove, my husband gave me directions, and when it was ready, while serving myself I scalded the inside of my arm with the side of the pan.  How did I do it? I have no idea, I really just do not have the wherewithal to wrap my mind about the basics of cooking and cleaning, and I get injured in the process, take a look at the picture above.  When I was growing up, my mother was the cook, and my father would make us clean along with him, hated it, and promised myself I would always have help, Thank God I got a cleanaholic husband, who tells me I do it wrong, so he does the deep cleaning, I wash dishes, sort laundry, and organize.
  • Every day I teach classes and explain how to breathe properly, connect the mind and body to the task at hand, especially in a workout, it makes it more effective and prevents injury.  Most importantly to activate the pelvic floor muscles, which is the workout of Pilates.  I wish I listened to myself and didn’t have mommy brain when I was helping my husband clear the rooms for his weekly deep cleaning every Friday for Shabbat.  I was distracted, mommy brain, didn’t activate my core, and picked up something very heavy, a piece of workout equipment that I have at home.  That was a month ago, I am still not 100%, it affected all the work I do, Yoga, Doula, Arasys Inch Loss demo’s, I was in such pain.

So I told my husband, I am not meant to be a domestic engineer, I do not enjoy it, I hurt myself, and I am not able to do the work that I love and that is my business.  The good thing is that since I am a healthy person and know my body, I knew that I got injured right away, stopped everything I was doing, got ice, heat, got a massage, put the shower head with hot water on it, and little by little it is getting better.

That’s All,

Coach Yulia

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To Share or Not To Share

Sharing is a hot topic at our house, and I tell my kids that they cannot just take something out of someone’s hand just because they want to play with it.  It is a daily conversation, sometimes it is amazing how my three kids under 6 years old play together and help each other, but every day there is one toy that everybody wants at the same time, we get tears and chasing each other around the house.

I wholeheartedly agree with the above statement, it is not about I want it now, but to nicely ask, when you are done, can I play with it?  Sometimes they may even say no, and I think that is OK, I tell them it is nice to share, but I also tell the other kids, its OK to want to play with something, and its OK to wait.

I had such beautiful pregnancy, labor, and birth experiences, I honestly can do that all day, but the kids, I cannot imagine more intense energy in my life.  I am so blessed with my kids, and the only way I know how to operate is to give them all of me when I am with them.  That is why my work is so important, it literally recharges me when I am teaching Yoga and Pilates classes, or supporting a Doula client.  It mind sound odd, but I would rather work, and Thank God my husband fully supports my purpose in this world.  Then when I am with the kids, I am 100% present, which is not easy, but what they deserve.

This week is a flurry of activity, on call for Doula services, family flying in from all over the world for a huge celebration, and booked solid with classes and clients.

I would not have it any other way,

Coach Yulia

HOSPITALS LOVE A DOULA

I went to the Doula Training above at one of the top hospitals in Los Angeles and Beverly Hills. They have a board that is beginning to incorporate Doula’s into everything they do, including guidelines, so Doctors, Nurses, Midwives, and Interns know their role and a Doula knows the policy of the hospital.  It was very exciting and powerful to hear how hospitals love a Doula to come and support, because they know the labor will many times go smoother, and somebody is always with the laboring mother and family, while they go from patient to patient.  Usually a Doctor or Midwife come at the very end to “catch the baby,” and I use this term because in a healthy pregnancy, that is their only role, they are not needed before the pushing stage.

I was honored and fortunate to support a mother through a very long labor, she was admitted to the hospital because they wanted her on the monitors just to keep an eye but nothing was wrong, the doctor was not there, but could see the monitor on her cell phone.  We went through three nurse shifts, each nurse fit the stage of labor perfectly, her water did not break until the first push, and the mother looked healthy every step of the way.  Her husband and I were a team, and she was in her zone, everybody worked together to let the mother labor and birth her way.  The nurses were grateful that I was by her side when they could not be.  The husband was grateful for my guidance and that everything was not on his shoulders.  A Doula knows that when a mother is at the end, and it is super intense, and she has doubts and is not sure that she can do it, it is the sign that we are at the end and all she needs is a reminder that she is doing it, and she is almost there.

I am also grateful that it is not my job to check dilation, interpret the monitor,  or any other medical procedure.  I want to stay on the energy side, the support side, just focusing on the mother, and let the hospital focus on all the machines.  I actually just had the experience of a woman getting a routine checkup from her doctor and being sent immediately to the hospital because blood pressure and a few other things did not look good.  Once they performed all the necessary tests, they said actually nothing was wrong, it may have been a little higher than usual, so it was good to monitor it, but Thank God a beautiful natural, healthy labor and birth was experienced, because there was actually nothing wrong with the mother or the baby.  We were grateful to be monitored to make sure nothing was wrong, but the hospital staff supported the mother’s labor timeline, did not rush her, did not offer pain management, they were all in awe of what Doula support makes possible, and congratulated the mother on her strength and inward focus.

I am on a natural high,

On call for the next,

Grateful for my purpose in this world,

Energy Support,

Headspace,

Focus On Feeling Good,

Coach Yulia

Wherever You Are, You Are.

My message is the same, whether its Yoga, Labor and Birth, or just dealing with relationships and life, whatever you decide and tell yourself is the truth, becomes your truth.  These are words that flow through me when I teach classes or support a Doula client.  I recently had the most beautiful experience with a laboring mother that wore a bracelet like the one that you see in the above picture, it is in Yiddish.  Think Good and It Will Be Good, is really how the world works.

If you tell yourself something is hard, then it is.

If you say I can’t, then it is true.

Instead tell yourself it is challenging and you will try.

I have a problem solver mentality, I live in a happy bubble, and when something doesn’t go my way, I instantly try to figure out how to deal with it.  This is the only way I know how to operate, to be happy, and to deal with things head on.  I am blessed that my children have inherited my happy genes, the problem solving I am still working on.

If you feel you need to release some intense feelings, take a soft deep breath in through the nose, and let it out twice as slow through your mouth.  You can even take a deep breath in and let out a moan, a loud “HEY!” or just say the letter “M” and enjoy the vibration in your body.  All of these breaths force our brain to pay attention, and distract us momentarily from the present, help us release.  Scientifically if we are focusing on our breath, that never stops, Thank God, our brain is unable to focus on anything else.  We really can only do one thing at a time.

Breathe My Friends,

Release,

Feel Good,

Think Good,

It Will Be Good,

Coach Yulia

Two blogs in one day, Two full moons in one month

I just realized that I wrote two blogs on Thursday, not sure how it is possible. I guess I blogged early Wednesday, and then Wednesday night when I came home from the bachelorette party it was after midnight, so it shows as Thursday, and then I blogged Thursday morning.  I have been in a daze and a bubble this week, in the Doula world there is not much sleep, and I am on call, besides picking up a whole bunch of extra classes this week, and cannot tear myself away from the computer as I build my website and marketing campaign.

Have you heard the phrase, once in a blue moon?  Apparently this month there are two full moons, and its called a blue moon, which comes once in a while.  The next one will be January 2018!

http://www.cnn.com/2015/07/29/world/blue-moon-july-31-irpt/

Here is a Jewish perspective, it is about inner and spiritual healing,

 http://www.chabad.org/kabbalah/article_cdo/aid/380026/jewish/The-Phases-of-the-Moon.htm

Yesterday I met an amazing woman, www.healingmyheartcenter.com, she told me some powerful things, if you ask me I will tell you.  I love to keep connecting with people with talents, gifts, and expertise in different areas of physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual.  She gave me some amazing tips on how to keep on my path, but also recharge and release.

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I am not a dogaholic or a big animal person, I appreciate them, but taking care of me is hard enough! This however is just plain truth about life, we can learn something from everyone and everything around us.

Grateful For My Gut,

Grateful For My Day Of Rest,

Shabbat Shalom,

Coach Yulia

I Like To Move It Move It

One of my friends wrote on her timeline that today is Throwback Thursday, and there is Flashback Friday, so we should also have Way Back Wednesday, Timeless Tuesday, and Mistake Monday, along with Suddenly Sunday and Smashing Saturday, Thanks Heather!

I have always loved travel, when I was in high school, 16 turning 17, my school was offering a semester in Israel, and I knew at that age it would be the only place my parents would let me go.  It was really the trip of a lifetime, we saw and learned about the beautiful country and the history.  I never had a Bat Mitzva at 12, so I had one there, and it was the first time I got drunk, and they had to tell my parents!

Since then after high school I traveled with friends around the United States.  I was born in Moscow, USSR, I am a big city girl, and have been to Chicago, New York, New Orleans, San Francisco, Pheonix, Las Vegas, Atlanta, Boston, just to name a few.  One of my most memorable trips was with two childhood friends, we just graduated from high school, I was 18, and we came to Los Angeles, and lived on the Sunset Strip, it was 1991 and remnants of the long hair and rock scene were still the place to be before grunge and hip hop exploded on to the scene.

In college, I was majoring in Hospitality Management, and minoring in International Relations, and I was part of the Honors College, which had a semester in Prague, back then it was still Czechoslovakia.  I was 21, had saved up money from working at various jobs, I have consistently had a job since I was 12.  The song above, I Like To Move It, Move It had just come out, and whenever I hear it I think of that trip.  So now in my son’s school they play that song for the kids to dance to, and it was in the movie that is in the video above.  Every time I hear it I want to dance, and now I can dance with my kids.

Woo Hoo!

Coach Yulia

NON STOP

IMG_2834[1]Just coming home from a fun bachelorette party, after a wonderful day of Yoga classes. My kids are finishing camp, we are getting ready for a huge family wedding, school starts, we have a big trip coming up.  So much fun stuff going on, so excited, I really should be going to bed now.

When I teach Yoga, my brain stops thinking about everything and everyone, and I am 100% in tune with the students and the energy in the room.  I actually feed off that energy exchange, I need it to survive, to be recharged when I come home to my kids.

No big thoughts today, just gratitude, feeling in my own skin again.  Before the party, where I knew I was going to have a margarita, I was starving after teaching two classes and no food since lunch.  I was driving by Taeem, it is the most amazing, delicious food ever, http://www.ta-eemgrillinc.com/home.html.

Enjoy Life,

Enjoy Food,

Enjoy You,

Surround Yourself With Whom You Enjoy Giving Your Time And Energy,

Coach Yulia

Welcome to my new website, www.coachyulia.com!

Everything is in one place now, I am so excited, I did it all myself, feeling proud, taking charge, taking control, appreciate having the time to do it.  I literally have not slept, besides a huge event coming up, a few women that could go into labor any minute, and the everyday of a mom, I am so excited to keep building and promoting.

I am a personality type that loves a thrill, loves living on the edge, and I have turned that into a career.  At any moment my schedule can change, everybody I work with is also flexible and knows the important Doula work that I do.  It is exciting going through my day, appreciating that I get to teach Yoga and Pilates, and introduce the world to Arasys Inch Loss.  You can find out all the details by looking at the menu above, now everybody will have automatic access to my website and what I do.

I had the most amazing Prenatal Yoga group yesterday, it is such a beautiful energy of pregnant women getting together, supporting each other, asking questions, and just letting themselves feel good and talk about anything and everything.

Coming up, three Yoga classes, and a night out with the girls, celebrating a future member of our family.  I feel blessed for a full life of wonderful family relationships, great friends, and meeting new people everyday through the work I do.

I choose to always see the positive and be grateful with what I have, I do not know another way to operate.  Life does have its ups and downs, and in the big picture it all moves us towards growth, learning, and a better version of ourselves.

Feel Good My Friends,

Coach Yulia