Sadly death has been around close by for the last couple of years. My mother in law passed away almost two years ago, may her memory be a blessing. Our upstairs neighbor showered my kids with Chanukah gifts and joined us many times for Shabbat dinner. Out of the blue she found out she had the final stages of pancreatic cancer, and was gone in two months. She was so beautiful and full of energy in her 60’s, working, always on the go enjoying dinner with friends. I honestly don’t think she could’ve handled the quarantine, once she realized chemotherapy only made her feel worse, she was done.
Today, another neighbor suddenly left this world. She watched our kids grow up the last twelve years, and we always checked in on each other when we needed anything. She was in her 80’s and kept an eye on our building, and she made all of us feel safe and taken care of. Rest in peace, we know you will always be by our side.
Not to mention loved ones that are experiencing all levels of devastation with COVID19. Not one person can walk away saying they were not affected in some way.
I’m allowing myself to feel sad, lost, and accepting the unknown.
My next thoughts are always full of gratitude for my health, husband, children, parents, brother, all of my extended family, neighbors, friends and community, THANK GOD!
Then I take a deep breath, and live life to the fullest.
I love words. It is so fun when one word means more that one thing. Rearranging letters creates a completely different meaning. Our words have power. Not only the words themselves, but how we phrase them and especially our tone.
My philosophy and the essence of everything that I am and what I teach is to be present. From Yoga, to supporting labor and birth, and even in my Judaism, that is the core of it all. When you are fully present, everything you do is more effective, deeper, and precisely what is needed in the moment.
I am experiencing having nowhere to go and a complete disruption of everything I have known and done my whole life. This quarantine does not only have me in one place, but there is no where to even think of going. The only open places are full of very necessary rules and nervous energy.
Nowhere is such a fascinating word because it literally in a very negative connotation means absolutely nothing, it’s done, no chance, so it is the end of it all. It is heavy, it feels final, and it takes everything in you to re-frame it and move forward.
If you separate it in two, it is a startling reminder that you are now here. It is a gift, you are present, and from here you can make a decision. I always choose to move forward, it is how I am wired, everything is figureoutable, and I just want to pop back into my happy bubble. I am a problem solver, a little too much sometimes, because many times someone just wants your ear.
I love the Now Here.
It is a place that each person will understand in their own unique way.
It takes time to find it.
It is essential to our well being.
It is the only place that really exists.
Yesterday and Tomorrow are man made.
My gift in this world is that I am present. I enjoy creating an environment where everyone feels able to fully self express in the moment, their now here.
We all have a unique lens of how we see the world. So many factors, and each person is completely different. I am so fascinated by the process and love to hear stories of path and journey.
My mother is a creative being, a little bit of everything, and has complete trust in what is meant to be and how things work out. I definitely got that from her and my grandmother who lived until 101, was the most positive and happy person in the room.
I have always had big ideas, not all have come to fruition, but I am OK with that. The ideas themselves that well up inside are what I crave. You never know where it may lead and fill a need in the world. I love the process of creation, and being creative. I want to know how an artists starts painting, or how a book is born.
I am very clear that my creative process is for me first. I love when people enjoy and benefit, but ultimately it is my release and self expression. Where it goes after I have birthed is not up to me.
One of the ways that I allow the thoughts and ideas to bubble to the surface, is to just stay open and observe. If good ideas come, I am trying to write them down right away. I do have a perfectionist side, so songs I have written never fully materialized because my big vision did not have all the puzzle pieces in place. So the process is the excitement, and if it reaches the full potential, I am thrilled. However, if it doesn’t I am happy to keep creating and growing. The process is my natural high.
Do you have a place in your life where you can be 100% your true self? I love to meet people in that space. I love to create that environment in my Yoga and Doula coaching. I love to be me, and I am so happy when people around me can let it all out.
Balance and counterbalance are also important in the creative process. We are all different, some people thrive on deadlines while others are their best at different times of the day. I need my sleep, and I also need a little bit of everything. Maybe that is why I am not attached to having an end product. If it works, I feel satisfied, but if it doesn’t then I know that an even greater idea may be around the corner.
I think it is essential to disconnect from everything. Some people enjoy vacations or the spa. I am grateful to go off the grid once a week every Saturday. Nobody calls me, my family does not activate any electronics or drive our cars. We try to enjoy each other’s company, eat good food, and feel how magical life is in the moment.
Globally we are all quarantined and grappling with the unknown. I always see the positive view and have gratitude for all of the blessings in my life. I am having a hard time, and I know we are all trying to figure out our day to day.
My challenge is finding time for me. I always had quiet time, which I love so much because it is so healing. That is the core of everything that I teach, and I remind everyone how important self care is. If you do not take care of you, who will? How will you be there for everyone and everything in your life?
My amazing husband and kids are also doing their best. We honestly have never been around each other this much. We all had wonderfully busy lives that we loved. So now my vision of teaching live streaming online classes is blooming, yet I have to balance it with making sure the kids are quiet and doing online learning.
That is the work side, and on the personal and creative side, there is no time at all unless I make time. That is what I am doing now. I did all my to do’s for the day, and no matter what is going on around me, before dinner, I am squeezing in my flow.
I need this flow, this is my release, and so is bike riding as well as connecting with people in my life. I am inspired to finally write a book, and start teaching a dance like you know what you are doing class.
There are four areas to create personal space:
No matter how many things you think you can do at once, we really only do everything one at a time. When I am in to do mode, I cannot activate my creative and intellectual space. What I am doing now as I write this, is to let thoughts and noises go by, while focusing fully on creating and staying in my flow. Breath and mindfulness are amazing tools to give yourself your undivided attention.
This is a big one, and each person has their specific circumstances and challenges. I encourage my family to be open with each other and communicate their feelings. It is also important to find ways to release and let go, whether it is with a therapist or a guided relaxation. Exercise and nature also help us connect and release. Did you notice how Earth is healing during this pandemic?
I know this may sound funny, but there are way too many hugs going on at my home. I like touch, but not 24/7, and I have a house full of lovers, lucky me! I do my best to make clear when I need my space, and give each of my three children and husband as much of me as I can. I count down to their 7pm bedtime all day.
This is something that is individual and varies greatly all over the world. It is amazing when you find what makes sense to you. I am very in touch with my spiritual space and it gets me balanced and at peace. For some people different tools like Yoga, meditation, and nature can create an environment where you feel you can fully self express. For others prayer is soothing and healing.
I am so in awe of our earth and how animals are roaming and pollution is clearing. Every Friday night to Saturday night my family goes off the grid for Shabbat. I crave those 24 hours of no electronics, and feel so happy that my kids do not even think about asking. One of the laws is not to turn lights on and off, so some you leave on and some you leave off. I was just thinking that we give the earth a break on Shabbat, it has a day to heal once a week. We stay home, we do not drive, and we enjoy our family and community with a festive meal. It is mind blowing that the whole world is cooking and figuring it all out together, as well as realigning and reconnecting with each other and within ourselves.
Blogging used to be a daily need, and I enjoyed the release and the response. I recently created an online live streaming studio for my classes at http://www.coachyulia.com. I decided to blog organically, and life has been happening, ebbs and flows, while I try to stay present and trust. I am grateful that my online studio is flourishing, but I need help spreading the word, and would love everyone to try it once for free. This is a business model that does not exists, so it is important to see for yourself exactly how easy and convenient it is. If it is not for you, I would appreciate telling everyone you know, because maybe when you explain it they will understand.
There are three things I know for a fact:
1. Everything will happen at the right time 2. It is important to find the right fit 3. Everyone is exactly who they are supposed to be
In my amazing family, everybody has very strong personalities that sometimes clash. I feel like I am a referee reminding everyone to speak their mind, but also be open to hearing the other side. Honestly that is my own obsession with problem solving and figuring things out, that is how my brain works. I trust my gut completely, so my processing is a mix of focusing how to feel calm on the inside while I frantically work on finding solutions to everything!
In my classes and as a Labor and Birth Doula support, I encourage my clients to express themselves fully without holding back. Feeling comfortable to understand what they need and figure out how to communicate it clearly. I was so grateful to read the article below about a client that I supported feeling comfortable to trust herself.
I trust birth completely, the baby and body know exactly what to do. Everything else are tools to get through and of course amazing medical skill if help is needed.
Life is throwing me a lot of curves, and I am breathing through, just like I would during the labor waves. I know it is all going to work out. I feel so blessed with my family, health, and support from everyone around me.
This article articulates how hate is fueling our interactions, and it has to stop. It is up to each individual to step off the fear and hate, while tuning into their inner voice and connecting with others.
Facts, History, Truth, Connection, Acknowledgement, Kindness, Gratitude and lets all connect to being humbled by all of our blessings.
This summer has been a whirlwind. We were trying to figure out where to meet up with family, decided to send the kids to camp for a month first, and now seeing it all come together with kindness and flow.
First of all the camps that my kids go to, they have been going to for years and it’s such a blessing that we were able to figure it out.
I’m blown away by finding kindred spirits, and being treated to such hospitality that is blowing my mind.
Family and friends that we feel comfortable asking for what we need, are literally giving us the world. It’s so amazing where there is connection and honesty, it doesn’t hurt to ask, and it’s OK if it doesn’t work out.
The adventure has already begun in a comfortable minivan, enjoying getting to know our friends deeper, and onwards to bond with my brother and his family.
It is so important to notice the kindness all around you, be grateful for it, appreciate it, and deep down know that’s how it really works when you connect and find the right fit.
It was so much fun to tell my husband that I got somebody pregnant. As many of you know, I am a mother of three and a yoga teacher for 20 years as well as a Doula. I focus on fitness, prenatal, post partum, labor, and birth.
I love being a resource and a connector, and many people reach out to me for advice and coaching. Recently somebody was asking me about why her body felt weak, and why she was not getting pregnant. She had two kids under three and wanted to keep nursing continuously. She wanted to have more babies close together, and then be done. For some reason she was not getting pregnant, and one thing stood out to me. I asked her if she was getting enough nutrition, especially since it was essential that she had milk and could breastfeed. When she realized that she was not focusing on eating enough, I referred to her to a dietician that specialized in lacation.
A few weeks go by, and for some reason she was not able to connect with the dietitian, but wrote me to let me know she felt much better and I was correct in my advice and coaching. Then I get a picture of a positive pregnancy test! I could not believe it, and I was so grateful that she felt comfortable sharing her personal journey, and I was able to get her pregnant 🙂
As I walk out of my car, I see one of my students with a prayer book in deep concentration. Religious Jewish people pray three times a day, and she later told me that because of the 4th of July she had no traffic, so she had time to finish her prayers. It gave me such peace to see someone in a state of focus and self awareness, connecting spiritually in their own beautiful way. I did not say a word when I walked by her, I did not uwant to interrupt.
This particular class, all the ladies know each other, and along with a good Yoga practice comes great conversation. We were talking about Fireworks and how one of them enjoyed my Live Streaming Online Studio at www.coachyulia.com and was describing how everyone has to try it.
6. The picture at the beginning of the blog is the 15 yards of fabric that I need to buy in order to make belly binding wraps for my post partum clients. It helps with getting all the organs back in place while the hormone relaxin is still in the body for 40 days, and helps shrink the uterus back to regular size. The mom feels supported and put together. Her posture is strong, and she can nurse and move freely. I was excited because the fabric store was already having a sale, and then I asked at the register about using another coupon, and she guided me to text myself a coupon that I can use for sale items, SCORE!
7. As I am driving to teach my Yoga class at 24 Hour Fitness in West Hollywood I receive a very interesting photo from my cousin that lives in Russia. It is a picture of my grandfather’s gravestone that is in Chechnya. This is a much longer story, but it is a war torn place, and I was curious if she was actually there. She told me that my father had asked her husband to try to use the internet to find if the stone and cemetery got destroyed or still stands. It made me so emotional, it is a place that both of us do not feel safe visiting. She remembers him, she was 13 when he passed away. I was 7 when we moved to America, and only remember him from pictures of us.
8. As I am about to teach my Yoga class, everybody is lying down on their back, 35 students. I start feeling a little lightheaded and figure it is my natural high, when one of the students says, “IT’S AN EARTHQUAKE!” Luckily it passes, and we all continue to Yoga as I assure them I will keep my eyes and ears open for any messages or visual cues, while they stay in their stepping off of the world zone. The class flows smoothly without any further interruption. I honestly barely felt it at all.
9. I am driving to meet a friend with whom I did not confirm, and realize it is the fourth of July and maybe it would not work. For some reason all of our conversation on Facebook messenger do not contain her cell phone. I try to reach out to two of her friends on Facebook, no answer. As I am driving my father calls, and I think it is about the gravestone, but it is about the earthquake. He asks me if I am OK, and I told him that we continued to Yoga and later find out it was a 6.6 between LA and Vegas. So I tell him about the gravestone, and he tells me he is finding out about tours to Chechnya and I tell him I want to go. I feel very connected to my ancestors, I look like them, and am named after my great grandmother, Yehudit, that is also buried there. My mother chimes in that it is fully Muslim and I would have to wear a hijab, and I tell her I have no problem with that. She also tells me that her friend from Russia told her that the Chechen people honor and care for the Jewish graves, Thank God! Then I get a call from my friend that she is barbecuing as we speak and needs to reschedule, so I change direction back home.
My day is not finished, we are figuring out fireworks, having some hot dogs and corn. It is a happy day full of awe.
Yesterday I went to a sobering presentation about awareness and action in an active shooter scenario. The above slide has the words run, hide, fight in the top left hand corner. Basically it was a seminar about how to learn to actively respond and save your life, instead of waste precious seconds in shock.
It is sad that this is the world we live in, and our lecturer was explaining how it is an unfair scenario. The assailant carefully planned and thought about the reason and details, while innocent people are just living their lives.
I am all about positive posts, but I also like reality and being present. Recently many people I personally know have lost loved ones, and it really happens from one moment to the next.
Live life fully my friends.
Run towards happiness, fulfilment and self expression.
Hide and show your precious soul and energy for those that truly see you.