“Here humanity’s central interaction with spirituality begins. We have a distinct sense of something more, but that which is lacking prevents us from attaining it. At this point a grievous error is made: we go about searching for spirituality and wisdom as if they were material objects. We read books that claim they can sort the issue out for us, pursue “spiritual” practices that we imbue with salvific power, and follow individuals who represent spirituality as a concept.”
When it comes to relationships–whether amorous or platonic— many of us have a one-size fits all approach to loving—We love how we love, no matter who we are loving on. Not really asking ourselves if how we love is the best way to love the person in front of us, or if even loving how we love is the best way to love on ourselves. (Not knowing how to love ourselves is another post) I am not talking that low vibration, commodity driven notion of “love languages” in which you simply discover which kind of love commodity someone is and develop the currency to purchase that kind of love.
I am talking loving as an act of improvisational artistry, a demonstration of our creative genius, a way to explore the generative beauty of will and intent, an extemporaneous exhibition of what is best and beautiful about ourselves as spirits in contact and conversation with someone else’s spirit: loving as a series of ongoing continuously replenishing soul conversations. True intimacy: discovering and learning the essence of a person.
Each new person we choose to love that new relationship is a blank canvass and we can choose to create new art with them on that canvass or paint by the numbers because we are more comfortable with art we know than the new art we can create. A cactus and a rose both need water, but they need to be watered differently.
Black Love IS Black Power. —Àdísà
The article above is about happiness, and how relationships are essential to longevity and health, genes have very little to do with it. Below is a story about value, when you read it think about how you value yourself.
A little boy went to his grandfather and asked him, “What is the value of life grandfather?”
The grandfather gave him a stone and said, “First I want you to find out the value of this stone, but don’t sell it.”
The boy took the stone to a fruit vendor and asked him what its value would be.
The vendor saw the shiny stone and said, “How about you can take a dozen apples and give me the stone.”
The boy apologized and said that his grandfather had asked him not to sell it.
He went ahead and found a vegetable vendor.
“What could be the value of this stone?” he asked the vegetable vendor.
He saw the shiny stone and said, “How about you take a sack of potatoes and give me that stone.”
The boy again apologized and said he couldn’t sell it.
Further ahead, he went into a jewelry shop and asked the value of the stone.
The jeweler saw the stone under a lens and said, “I will give you one million dollars for this stone.”
The boy was surprised, but explained that he couldn’t sell the stone.
Further ahead, the boy saw a large shop of precious stones and asked the value of this stone.
When the precious stone shop owner was an expert in these matters. When he saw the stone, he lay down a cloth and put it on it.
Then he walked in circles around the stone and bent down and scratched his head in front of it. “From where did you bring this priceless uncut diamond from?” he asked.
“Even if I sell everything I own, my whole shop, I won’t be able to purchase this priceless diamond.”
Stunned and confused, the boy returned to his grandfather and told him what had happened.
His grandfather said,
“The answers you got from the fruit vendor, the vegetable vendor, the jeweler and the precious stone’s expert explain the value of our life.
You may be a precious stone, even priceless, but, people will value you based on their own limited perceptions, beliefs, motives and expectations. How they value you says more about them than it does about you!
For this reason it is important to value yourself. Respect yourself. No longer indulge in meaningless comparisons with others. For you are unique, original and the only one of your kind in this universe. This is the value of your life.
Associate ever more with those who recognize your true value and ever less with those who see you just as a means to fulfill their own dreams and ambitions.
May you value the diamond in yourself and recognize the diamond in others as well.