We get mixed messages in our culture. On one had we need to work until we drop, giving is holy, and denying ourselves is a norm. On the other had, there is a way to self care without being selfish, and for most of us this is a challenging lesson to learn.
The video below is so powerful about how to “lead yourself towards yourself.” This Shabbat observant Jew turned down an opportunity to speak on Saturday for Bill Gates, and the conference got changed just for him to Sunday.
That is what Shabbat is about,