There is a right fit no matter who you are

💕 Zehava Bracha & Baruch Arky

Zehava: I obviously look different from a lot of people in our community. Before I got married, when people would try to set me up, they would often set me up with another Jew of color, without considering if we might have anything else in common.

Baruch: I don’t think that people relate to us as an interracial couple. We’re both Jewish, and that seems to speak louder than color.

Zehava: My father was raised Muslim, and my mother was raised Christian. A friend suggested I go to Chabad, so I went for Shabbes dinner and then to shul. I didn’t know exactly what was going on, but it was so interesting and deep. I realized that all the spiritual ideas I already had, which I had thought were just my own, were also a part of Judaism.


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The beautiful couple in the picture above is so inspiring.  I have met Zehava when she lived in Los Angeles, and I am so happy she found her other half.  That is what everything is about, finding the right fit.  So when our society talks about white and everything else, I am curious to learn the perspective.  The article below talks about that even in all white cultures there are still class differences, but in our society it is taught and understood that white is dominant.

I love reading and learning from voices amongst my unique variety of friends.  Maybe if we all keep listening and communicating, we can figure out the next steps together.

Coach Yulia


Àdísà Àjàmú

There can be no real understanding between you and anyone for whom you have to first prove your humanity in order to be heard. It’s like someone saying to you: “Let’s talk about your mama being a ho.” The moment you agree to enter that convo, even if it’s to dispel the myth, you have accepted the premise.The dynamic in this society isn’t really about white privilege or racism-—those are interaction effects—of an order that is about the dehumanization of Black and Brown peoples.
In this society white folks, by and large, are socialized and educated NOT to see African (Black) people as human, and to compound the inhumanity with tragedy; we are educated to agree with that erroneous premise, either implicitly or explicitly. (You could not get the kinds of popular entertainment we participate in and consume if many of us didn’t also believe we belong in a circus. You may debate this, but consider: People in love with collective selves do not subsidize their own disrespect and denigration.)Within this misanthropic–anti human– world order in which Black and Brown people are not seen as human, killing them is permissible, like hunting a bear or a deer. You see animals don’t have to be armed to be a threat; their presence alone is the threat. Only humans (read: European Americans) must have a weapon in order to be considered a threat—and even then it depends on whom that weapon is directed towards. This is why you can kill so many unarmed Black and Brown folks with largely no significant outcry from European American communities because we are not seen as human.This is also why you can view a picture of a lynching and see all the smiling white faces in the crowd and hear “decent” white folks talk about the horror of the lynching, but never once remark on the horror of seeing all the smiling white faces in the crowd or raise the question of the humanity of the spectators.The answer resides not in our convincing this society of our humanity, but in convincing ourselves of our beauty and our humanity, because a people who see themselves as human, fully, rock to a very different life rhythm, a dance of love.—ÀdĂ­sĂ .Repost from December 19, 2014

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