I am an exhibitionist.


noun: exhibitionist; plural noun: exhibitionists
  1. 1.
    a person who behaves in an extravagant way in order to attract attention.
    “I am something of an exhibitionist”
    synonyms: posturer, poser, self-publicist 
adjective: exhibitionist
  1. 1.
    behaving extravagantly in order to attract attention.

This definition made me laugh and smile, because I don’t necessarily behave in an extravagant way in order to attract attention, but I enjoy attracting attention.  The synonmyms are hilarious, poser, not really, but self-publicist rings true.


  1. a person who publicly promotes themselves or their accomplishments.
    “a charismatic figure—albeit something of a self-publicist”


This article talks about how the high of clubbing and getting lost in the music and dance is the ultimate natural high, http://hevria.com/andreagrinberg/youll-never-believe-this/.  I like the word clubbing, it really describes what was a big part of my life, party life and work life.

I grew up in Miami, where clubbing is just what you do, not sure if I did it before I turned 18, but in the beginning of my senior year of high school I became an official adult in October.  Many night clubs were 18 and over, great music, and in Miami EVERYTHING is open until five in the morning, so it was the norm to come home right before dawn.  As long as I got good grades, which I did, I convinced my parents that everyone wears sexy clothes, which is understandable in Miami weather, and everyone stays out all night.  In college I was happy to get a B average, and balance that out with a happy social life, sometimes I would show up to class right from the club.

I am blessed to be born with a natural high, and I thought everyone was just happy right along with me, I know it sounds naive, but I was really oblivious to drinking and substances, I just danced the night away and had a blast.

In college I worked first as a cocktail waitress and then as a bartender at the coolest club in my neighborhood, Marsbar.  I still keep in touch with friends from that time, we were a family.  I loved having fun in the night scene while getting paid, and then when I worked on cruise ships, I volunteered,  bartending in the crew bar just to be part of the action. That is what I enjoy, being part of the action, and not missing out on the fun, and even better when I am part of the production of the fun.  When I moved to LA I joined a talented group of creative performers at Miss Kitty’s Palour, five years we were the place for people to come and let it all hang out.  I was already a Yoga teacher, which kept me balanced and fit, and was inspired to create some Yoga Dance shows that I performed around town.

Once I met my husband, I jumped into my current adventure of wife and mother, which I love. What I miss the most is the dress up, and people enjoying my style and show, I loved when my energy infused everyone around me with my own natural high.  Luckily Purim is around the corner, I get to dress up, flaunt, and be fancy, Woo Hoo!

Enjoy my first business card when I moved to Los Angeles,

Coach Yulia

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