Just Dilation is Only One Part of Birth

I am so happy to be a resource for women asking questions about labor, birth, breath, options, in a very comfortable, non medical way.  I love being a Doula, nothing to do with the medical side, just on the energy and inward connection side.  Everybody’s connection will be different, even with the same mother with multiple births.  My goal as a Doula is to create a space to foster that connection, in the present moment, and for the mother to have a conscious, positive birth experience

Before I met my husband and had babies, I had no interested in children, birth, and had no connection to my true purpose in this world.  I am not medical at all, and I do not want to learn about it, I do not want it to get in the way of my intuition and connection to the present.  I do not like fluids or blood, but when I support a woman in labor and birth, all I see is the miracle.

If you are squeamish, these might not be for you, but I find the placenta absolutely fascinating, it is really like a work of art, besides all of the invaluable functions.


Humanizing birth means understanding that the woman giving birth is a human being, not a machine and not just a container for making babies. Showing women-half of all people-that they are inferior and inadequate by taking away their power to give birth is a tragedy for all society. - Marsden Wagner


Thank God for the medical world, Thank God for skilled surgeons for emergency situations.  Other than that, we are not patients, we are consumers, have rights, choices, options, and can exercise our rights every step of the way.  Pregnancy, labor and birth is not a disease, it is a natural, beautiful, biological process, which scientifically results in a healthy elimination.

The following article perfectly describes how there are so many aspects to labor and birth, dilation is not even the main thing.  There is water, contractions, baby moving down, ripening of the cervix, and so much more.

“Did you know labor is less about your cervix opening and more about the thickness and contracting power of the uterus moving baby down and out?”


After the birth as well, everyone is all about the baby, and they should also be equally caring about the mother, the story below gives a glimpse into the world of Post Partum Depression.

Afshine Emrani

‪#‎PostPartum‬‪#‎Depression‬ is real and serious. Several times a month I see young mothers referred to me for chest pain, shortness of breath, palpitations, dizziness and other ‪#‎somatic‬ symptoms and after testing and discussion, I uncover depression that started after the birth of a baby. The new mother is busy taking care of the newborn, taking care of the household, being good at her job, still making herself look good as demanded by society, and her norm becomes “chronically tired me” until she finally crashes, her body exhibiting aches and pains. I often ask “are you sure you are not depressed?” and the tears come pouring down. “I’m not interested in sex. I’m tired all the time. I just want people to leave me alone. I’m having trouble sleeping. I get mad at my children easily. I’m moody and I feel guilty that I’m not there for my family. I feel horrible all the time and have to go somewhere and hide…I ache.” Now, mind you, these are all beautiful women whom if you saw on the street or in a party, you would say “wow- she is stunning and she has her shit together…I wish I could be like her.” The problem is that if you don’t recognize postpartum depression, the depressed brain actually changes in shape over time, and begins to shrink, and an acutely depressed person becomes chronically depressed, which eventually leads to cognitive dysfunction and memory loss. It’s sad that more doctors don’t take an active role in screening for and treating depression. So often, I treat depression with 1- ‪#‎recognition‬, 2- referral for ‪#‎therapy‬, 3- ‪#‎medication‬ when needed 4- ‪#‎nutrition‬ 5-‪#‎exercise‬ 6- ‪#‎sleep‬ hygiene 7- couple’s ‪#‎counselling‬ 8- supplements,etc. and in six months to a year, the young mother is back to where she was- vibrant, energetic, where her inner-self matches her outer appearance.

Let’s all take care of our mother’s,

Especially during such a vulnerable and empowering moment in life,

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Coach Yulia


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